So, there is a writer at Cracked.com who is rather infamous for his brutally honest and unflinching examination of reasons why his life sucks and the things he can do about it. It can depress the hell out of you. However, he does give a reason for it."I figure there are a lot of people in the same situation who feel like they're alone. That's always the worst part about having a shitty life in your teens or 20s, feeling like everyone else in the world has it figured out but you."
However, this time around, he has taken it upon himself to remind us that there is a motherfucking silver lining, dammit.5 Reasons Life Actually Does Get Better
The guy is brutally funny and doesn't mess around, but one of his sections resonated with me in a way that, if I had a heart or human feelings, I might call 'meaningful'.
He discusses freedom and how it never really computes for those who have yet to get out from under their parents' jurisdiction."Want to stay up until 4 a.m. on a Wednesday? Go for it. Want to eat straight whipped cream right out of the container? Have at it. Adulthood is being able to get into your car at 2 a.m. and just drive for no reason at all. It's growing past being dragged to Mom's church every Sunday and being able to decide for yourself what you want to believe. It's eating pie for supper. It's choosing your own friends and buying your own clothes. It's sitting three feet from the TV screen, just because you fucking can. It's watching a movie for no other reason than it has a lesbian sex scene with Natalie Portman."
I'm kind of a youngin', in terms of adulthood, but this is where my two-married-parents-w/-2.5-kids-in-a-
stable-middle-class-home upbringing always rubbed me the wrong way. No matter how permissive and awesome your family and home life may have been, you're still living under someone else's rules. Your meals, your dress, your sleep schedule is theirs to dictate, and god help you if you rock that boat, you ungrateful brat.
Like I said, I have a lot
less to bitch about than most people. I've been living the American Dream for my entire life, may God have mercy on my soul. But it wasn't by choice. Would I choose anything different? Hell no. But would I go back to it, now that I've left? Not on your life.
My parents both work, so they keep to an "early to bed, early to rise" mentality out of necessity. I do this too, when I work or have class. But on my off days, I usually succumb to my natural night owl inclinations and just pay for it that next Monday. But whenever I go home, I will get physically hoisted out of bed by no later that 10AM by my parents. Not because I have anything pressing to do, mind. But just because I am sleeping the day away, and that is something my parents cannot abide.
My parents and I get along great and our relationship has only gotten better over the years. But this is just one example of how some of the actions and values that they consider important are just meaningless noise to me.
When you end up on your own, there is a paradigm shift. All of a sudden, the structure your parents so painstakingly laid on top of you falls away and you are now free to do your own god damn thing, whatever that means. A lot of kids crash and burn, early on, because they no longer have anyone kicking them out of bed, each morning. But some, like me, manage to figure out that that mountain of laundry ain't gonna do itself, push up our sleeves, and start taking care of ourselves.
When I was younger, all I saw was the scary side of that, where there was
no safety net. It was me against the world. Nobody ever told me that you come to like it that way.
I can, indeed, eat whipped cream any freaking time I want (finances permitting). I can and will go for late night drives for no reason. And I definitely sleep past 10AM. And I do it because it makes me happy and because I want to. I don't have to ask permission or plead my case for any of my actions. I have things I need to get done and I do them because I decide that they're important. I am not obligated to make anyone else happy or comfortable other than myself. And that if motherfucking freedom.
And it is beyond cool to read the work of someone who agrees.
However, I am still unconvinced by the arguments that 'growing up' is necessary to keep said freedom. I'm pretty sure they're making that up.